You may remember, as I do, your very early school days when teachers might praise one child for doing something which helped another.
Perhaps someone helped another child carry something heavy, or they might have lent a hand when it came to tidying things away.
Helping others is generally seen as pro-social behaviour, something to be encouraged, something which helps to keep groups and communities glued together.
Helping others, too, feels good. And I don’t think it’s simply because we were conditioned to see it as good when we were young (although that’s possibly no hindrance to those positive feelings).
I think one very good side-effect of lending your help to someone is that when you’re busy doing a good deed you have less time to focus on your own worries, giving you a kind of mini-break from your hassles.
Don’t necessarily wait to be asked. Offer your help in a pro-active way. If a friend’s lawn is looking shaggy, rather than simply asking if you can cut it for them, re-frame the suggestion in a more assumptive manner: ‘I was thinking about mowing your lawn. Would that be OK with you?’
It may be a free gig but you’ve still got to talk them into it sometimes.
So who can you help? What can you do for them? And when are you going to suggest it to them?