Quite often I write about being comfortable with who you are, but when I do I’m sometimes taken to task by a Moodnudges reader or two.
In the nicest possible way, of course. We’re an awfully civil community here, for which I count my blessings.
In general there’s much to be said for accepting yourself as the person you are, for there are certain aspects which may be pretty much set in stone.
Sometimes for instance I think I’d like to lose a few pounds, but since I enjoy my food, like a drink now and then, and am frankly unlikely to take up marathon running, it’s probably better that I should be satisfied with who I am rather than becoming dissatisfied with who I’m not.
Where people politely pick me up on this concept, though, is when it comes to the nasties such as depression and anxiety.
They wonder if I’m suggesting that someone who suffers from a mood problem should simply accept it as a given – as a permanent condition.
And, of course, I’m not.
I’m really not.
Of course there may be a few for whom long-term treatment is the only answer, and it’s crucial that they get the support and care they so vitally need.
For millions more, however (and I’m convinced that it’s the majority) the real you isn’t the you who’s currently experiencing problems.
With the right help, the right mind-set, the right level of acceptance, it should absolutely be possible to visualise yourself being in a better place.
Almost certainly this can’t happen overnight.
While moods fluctuate day to day, real change takes place over time, and we hear evidence of this all the time from Moodnudges readers.
Patience is a necessity when it comes to emotional repair.
Yesterday I talked about not being defined by your current state of mind, if it’s a low or troubled one.
So maybe the ‘us’ we should be comfortable with is the true ‘us’, not necessarily the one we may be feeling right now.