I wonder if anyone is truly comfortable in their own skin?

It’s an odd phrase which describes, I guess, the idea that you’re happy with who you are. Perhaps also happy with the way you look.

And it’s all too easy to think ‘I’d be all right if only I weighed a bit less, or didn’t get so anxious, or didn’t suffer from low moods’.

The thing is, there are some things you can change, but others you can’t.

No matter how hard you might try.

No matter how much you’d like them to change.

It’s over stuff like this that I’m sure it helps to practise acceptance. To take them as they are, and to build from this foundation rather than wishing and praying for change that’s unlikely to happen.

By all means plan, expect and work towards changing those things that you can and probably should re-jig.

But maybe it makes sense to simply accept with good grace those that you can’t?

4 thoughts on “Acceptance.

  1. I work a lot with people experiencing losses of many kinds and sometimes ‘acceptance’ feels like too big a word… Some losses will always feel unacceptable but also cannot be changed… I find that ‘accommodate’ is often a more helpful word here – that idea of finding a safe place to hold something that cannot be changed and then moving on with it , rather that away from it… Words, only words, but it sometimes makes ‘moving on feel like a more ‘do-able’ project.

  2. This is the first time I’ve commented on this Blogg.

    Jon’s emails are always helpful in some way or another. Today’s, about acceptance is a good reminder that although we can change some things in life, there are many we can’t, so why waste energy on them. The email brought to mind the Serenity Prayer:

    God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
    Courage to change the things I can,
    And wisdom to know the difference.

    To me, Divine help is a great help and comfort. These are wise and helpful words regardless of what you believe in.

    Hope you all have a good weekend. Try to let go of the things which you can’t change – I need to learn this myself.

  3. So grateful to read this post today. I was just commenting how much I loathe myself, then I opened my email to read this reminder. I have some work to do in accepting myself, apparently.

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