There’s that old joke, isn’t there, about how many therapists it takes to change a lightbulb: the answer being one – but the lightbulb has got to really want to change.
Perhaps it’s true that many who go into therapy do so in the hope that they’ll change as a result.
Maybe there’s something about themselves, or their life, that they don’t really like, and there’s a feeling that working with a professional will help them instigate change.
Nothing inherently wrong with that, I guess.
There can be times in life when we all need help and encouragement to move things on a bit.
Could it be, however, that there’s the danger of adopting an all-or-nothing mindset which drives us to assume that nothing can change unless everything does?
That, say, we can never be a satisfied caterpillar until we metamorphose into a butterfly?
Big earth-shattering changes such as these are generally thin on the ground in a lifetime.
When people do move on, it’s more often than not a slow-and-steady process rather than an overnight transition.
Knowing this, I wonder if it makes sense for us to place a little more emphasis upon being comfortable with who we are, rather than uncomfortable with who we’re not?
I suspect that this time tomorrow you’ll still be pretty much the person you are today, so it’s maybe a better use of the next 24 hours to look for reasons to feel good about yourself than it is to while away the time pining for changes which may be out of your reach.
You know what?
Sometimes the lightbulb may be reasonably happy as it is, thank you very much.