Be patient with your recovery

If Rome wasn’t built in a day, how long did it take?

A spot of Googling suggests it either took (a) around 500 years, or (b) more precisely, it’s actually still being built and so will never be finished.

There’s a heck of a lot of difference between a day and 500 years, isn’t there?

Historical town-planning ponderings aside, the ‘it wasn’t built in a day’ thought is probably a good one to dig out if you’re down in the dumps.

When you feel like that, it would clearly be brilliant for someone to wave a magic wand, making everything immediately wonderful. But it doesn’t work quite like this, does it?

Looking at my own WellBee graph it’s clear that recovery after a crash is generally a pretty slow process.

It doesn’t stop you being impatient though. But this is not helpful.

So the next time you feel life closing in on you, it’s probably best not to expect miracles. Do, however, take small steps – or preferably just ONE small step – each day that has the potential to make you feel just a little better the next.

Connect with other people. Get out in nature. Do something to help someone. Focus on three things for which you feel gratitude. Eat something healthy.

Don’t try and do all of the above. It’ll be too much.

Do think about that one small step though.

5 thoughts on “Be patient with your recovery

  1. Hi Jon, this was really helpful. My kind of bi-polar is pretty binary and I flip from state to state in 24 hours or less. This means that when I come out of a down I have to stop the antidepressants immediately or I’m flying into the stratosphere. This time, although I came back up on July 7th, it’s taken until early October to really get my strength and power back and I’ve been concerned. Good to hear your words of wisdom on that one.
    Wishing you all the best as ever. Mary

    1. Mary, Mary, Great that your still doing well…and it’s now October!
      Thank you Jon, for anther great post…these liddle nudges are just what we need.

  2. A wand would be magic! I am reminded of a misunderstanding (not funny at the time) 12 years ago when my psychiatrist said that depression could last ‘four years’. As I approached the end of the fourth year, still suffering from appalling mood swings, I challenged the Consultant, who reiterated that depression could, indeed, last ‘for years’! Thank you for your sage advice, Jon. Best wishes.

  3. Thanks, Jon. Very helpful, as always. For me, recovery is a bit of a tango between my lighter and darker sides – slow, slow, quick, quick, slow. I try to get a more even pace, but that doesn’t seem possible sometimes, because I need bursts of energy to get me through the day in relation to others I work and live with. However, these bursts often result in fatigue and frustration.

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