Taking a positive approach to life doesn’t mean being unrealistic.
I’m excited. I’m happy to report that I’m spending a fair amount of my time at the moment working on a new and innovative approach to emotional health management, which I genuinely believe has the potential to really and truly help – well – millions.
When I’m able, I’ll tell you more, but for now I’d simply like to talk about a philosophical discussion I’m having with myself which is what you’d call a mood state which is exactly midway on a scale which has Extremely Unhappy at one of its ends, and Extremely Happy at the other.
If your own mood was at that point, what would you call it? Neutral? Neither happy or unhappy? Quite happy? Quite UNhappy?
It’s a tricky one, which I’m wrestling over, so would genuinely love to hear what Moodnudgers think, probably in the comments below.
My bigger point right now, though, is that when it comes to evaluating our current state I think it’s all too easy for you and I to see things in black and white when it would be better to recognise that there are actually many shades of grey between these two extremes.
What do I mean? Well let’s imagine your day is just starting, but unfortunately you’ve had a restless night, tossing and turning with anxiety about something which probably got completely out of perspective during the wee small hours.
Do you try to take a positive approach to the new day, bouncing like Tigger and trying to ignore your worries?
Or do you begin your morning like a pessimistic, gloomy and depressed Eeyore, excusing your bad temper to all those around you because of your bad night?
Frankly, the former is unlikely and unrealistic. The latter, however, helps nobody, least of all yourself.
Better by far to approach things somewhere towards the positive end of that Unhappy/Happy continuum – the closer to it, the better. But not so close that like Icarus you melt your wings off.
Taking a positive approach works best when it’s sustainable: kind of positive-ish is good to aim for.
Negative-ish is not always so helpful – although now and then inevitable, I know.
Let’s both hope for a spot of positivity today, though.