I wonder if you’ve noticed the way in which many older people seem to have an enormous resilience to adversity?
When things go wrong they simply accept them, and carry on pretty much as normal.
Chatting to a friend who’s a clinical psychologist, I wondered if there might be a degree of denial involved in this.
Perhaps these older folks are in some way choosing to ignore what’s befallen them?
My friend’s view?
In general, definitely not.
Their very real strength and resilience comes from having experienced adversity and heartache in the past, and from having proved to themselves that it’s perfectly possible (and in fact highly likely) to bounce back.
When you face bad times, as you’re certain to, it can be tempting to believe that they’re simply destructive and negative – of no value whatsoever.
But another way of viewing things is that these challenging experiences are building up your mental immune system, in just the same way that having certain childhood illnesses boosts your physiological immunity.
Whether you’re eight or eighty, it seems that going through bad times can make you stronger.