If you can’t change it, accept it. Perhaps even celebrate it.

Can you change the colour of your skin?

Tanning booths aside, nope.

Can you add six inches to your height?

Not really, no.

Could you lose a few pounds?

Possibly, but not overnight.

There are things about our physical selves that we accept.

They’re who we are, and how we look.


So why then do some of us (including me) wish we could be different in other ways?

We may pray that one day we’ll wake up permanently happy, or less anxious, or more sure of ourselves.

The thing is, that’s generally not going to happen.

Sure, you can work on your mind in the same way that you can on your body, but on the whole you’re probably who you are, you know: you’re probably not going to change that much.

Years of mood-tracking has shown me that I’ll always have rougher times alongside my better ones.

Knowing this and accepting it were two different things, though.

However, it helps hugely – it really does – to be able to declare that you are who you are: there’s a lot to be said for this.

3 thoughts on “If you can’t change it, accept it. Perhaps even celebrate it.

  1. I have seen a movie some time ago where the man down on his luck was asked if he worried……he answered: Would it help? I found this so profound, I have adopted this thinking in difficult situations….and the answer is most of the time NO. It has helped me, maybe it can help someone else. I hope so.

  2. Very wise words Jon. Anything that stops us beating ourselves up about things we can’t change has to be a good thing! Sally S

  3. Thank you, Jon, for this insight. For me – and for others I suspect – this important message would have been infinitely helpful had it been received earlier in life. How can we reliably inform young adults that their future success does not depend on altering their persona so that they do not spend half of their lives pursuing this goal?

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