Helping someone with their load doesn’t mean carrying it yourself.

Although I’m personally not a prolific Tweeter or Facebooker, I check both sites on a fairly regular basis to see what friends, and those I follow, are up to.

It’s intriguing to observe two quite different styles among those who are prodigious in their content generation.

It seems some people are overwhelmingly positive and light-hearted in their posts, while others dwell on the serious.

Sometimes the deadly serious.

And I suppose this online behaviour simply reflects real life.


I’m sure we all know people who appear to radiate light wherever they go, and others who can cast a sense of glumness over everything.

Social media makes it relatively easy to avoid seeing the posts of gloom-mongers, if you wish.

Not so simple in the real world however, particularly if they’re people with whom you need to have regular contact, for one reason or another.

Although emotions can be contagious (if you’re not careful, someone else’s misery can get through to you too) it seems to help if you’re determined to see someone else’s burden as something you can help with, rather than needing to take its weight on your own shoulders.

Just as others can’t deal with it on their own, neither will you.

Share the load, by all means, but don’t try to carry it for them.

One thought on “Helping someone with their load doesn’t mean carrying it yourself.

  1. Oh I wish someone had told me this when I was a child and growing up – when I was made to feel responsible for my mother and her problems – how I was used and abused –

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