I love this suggestion from my friend, Ali, building on some of the foundations of mindfulness.
The concept works like this.
Many of us, even the ‘confident’ ones, are occasionally plagued by negative voices telling us that we’re useless at something, or that we can’t do it.
Some methods advise you to do battle with thoughts like these, to try and replace them with positive ones.
There’s nothing necessarily wrong with this, but it’s easier said than done.
So Ali suggests you follow these steps:
1. Acknowledge the negative self-thought without judging it (eg ‘Okay, there you are again. That’s interesting…’)
2. Apply humour to the thought, with a smile (‘You’re about as useful as a chocolate teapot aren’t you?!’)
3. Tell the thought where to go (‘I have no use for you now.’) As Ali says, this is the polite version, feel free to add your own…
4. Replace it with a positive self-thought. (‘I can do this. At the very least, I can start.’)
I like this, and am tucking it away for when I need it.