Have you ever wished that someone you knew could have changed a bit?
Perhaps you viewed a friend as selfish, loud or thoughtless?
If only you could have changed them.
Or maybe you had a boss who was bombastic, over-critical or blind to your efforts?
If only they’d have behaved differently.
Often, however, people are who they are.
Much as we may wish they weren’t, they’re probably pretty set in their ways and, as is said, leopards rarely change their spots.
What’s funny, however, is that although we may recognise how unlikely it is that others will suddenly adopt radically new ways of being, we may tend to wish we ourselves could be different.
I’m sure you and I do have the power to change our ways in some areas, and in fact self-belief in this respect seems to play a big part in giving us the confidence that we can overcome periods of low mood.
But I’m sure there’s also much to be said for accepting that to some extent we are who we are, and there’s probably value in being comfortable with that.
For instance I think I’m a little overweight, with a build that might be charitably described as not very athletic.
It’s true that I can continue my current efforts to shed a few pounds, but because I’m notoriously unsporty, my physique is likely to remain much as it is.
Emotionally I tend to be affected greatly by the moods of those around me. My own moods wax and wane.
How much can I change this?
More importantly, how much should I want to change this?
Underneath it all, some of this makes me the man I am – so perhaps this is something to embrace rather than to wish it was somehow otherwise?
Maybe we can both be a bit more comfortable with who we are.