Why it helps to be comfortable with yourself

When a friend recently recommended a book called ‘All About Me’, I had to get myself a copy. It dropped into the mailbox at the weekend.

Written by Philipp Keel, the book is full of simple but provocative questions. Blank spaces are left for your answers, the idea being that you either use the book to help you open up to someone else, or to get to know yourself better.


By all accounts the friend who told me about it became completely absorbed by it, spending hours filling it in.

But with questions such as ‘Recall a compliment that made you blush’, and ‘If you had a safe, you would keep (what in it?)’ I sense that completing it may be no easy task.

Although we’re often reminded that it’s emotionally healthy to be comfortable with who we are, this idea depends on knowing who we are in the first place, and I suggest that this may not always be the case.

Sometimes we forget. Sometimes we don’t really know.

So at the risk of making you feel a little uncomfortable, I have a suggestion to make. During the coming day or so, maybe there’s value in thinking (and perhaps even making notes) about who you are.

Who is the real you?

Philipp Keel’s book could be a great way to start the process, but you can always ask yourself questions of your own – possibly imagining that it’s someone else cross-examining you.

First, recognize who you are. Second, be comfortable with it.

6 thoughts on “Why it helps to be comfortable with yourself

  1. Have been someone’s daughter, sister, a granddaughter, a sister-in-law, niece, a great niece, an aunt, a great aunt, wife, mother and friend. Jobs include housewife: cook, cleaner, gardener, decorator, paid jobs include civil servant, shelf stacker, teaching assistant, playgroup teacher, office manager, receptionist, sales executive not sure who I am really!! Hope the book may help!!
    Thanks Jon!
    Karen 🙂

    1. Love your reply Karen! I was down today on the basis of pondering similar thoughts. It seems sometimes that one’s life is diverse – but can become overdone with duty and basics. Not only ‘who I am’ but also ‘who would I like to be’.

      1. I know what you mean about the way that duty and basics can overtake life Sheena. But I wonder if there’s a way – at least partly – in which you can be the ‘who you’d like to be’ mid-chore?

        For example, I sometimes think ‘How would I cook dinner if I was someone else?’, and then actually act this out. If nothing else, it can make mashing the potatoes entertaining!

    2. Hi Karen,

      I love your reply. My list wouild be similar but different, yet it does’t reach the “who am I” question. I think it’s sometimes good to just be, but it’s actually quite hard to do. Being outside helps. I have a flowering cherry in my garden and it was buzzing with bees this morning, when I tried to capture them in a photograph they eluded me, like this question.

  2. I have been recovering who I really truly am by doing yoga and mindfulness to remove immense blocks and it is not easy to come face to face with yourself to discover who are. I have to discover who i am not. Thanks Jon – the Moodnudges have been very instrumental and valuable in this process of becoming me. Thank you, ever grateful.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *