Sometimes the best thing to do is nothing at all

Usually when something goes wrong, I want to take action and fix it as quickly as I can.

If our daughter forgets her lunch at home, I will stop on the way to school to get her a new one.

When I can’t sleep, I try every sleeping remedy known to man.

If I end up in a tense situation, my instinct is to talk it through until everyone is drained and exhausted out of their minds.


Now in many cases, taking action to solve a problem is very useful.

But in some cases it may not be.

I heard some wise words this morning that I’d like to share with you. My friend Janya pointed out:

“When we’re injured, or hurt somehow, sometimes we just need to do nothing. Let ourselves heal, physically or emotionally. Let situations settle. Turn towards gentle self-care and relaxing deep breaths, and sit with the pain. It will pass, whether we’re fussing about it or not. And sometimes all the fussing can make it worse. So I ask myself, ‘what if all I have to do is give this space and time to heal?’ And often, that’s enough.”

I wonder if you might find a bit of space and time in your heart today to let a hurtful thing heal. Just do nothing and let it be exactly as it is for now. And see what happens?

I’ll be sitting right here with you.

11 thoughts on “Sometimes the best thing to do is nothing at all

  1. This is so true! Self care is so important especially when we are going through emotional distress. Our minds need time to process difficulties. We need to understand our minds our our greatest asset and we need to nature them.

  2. I sometimes think of this as “hold on tight and wait until it passes”, because in my experience, many of these inner feelings and just stages my head is going through while it tries to solve the problem. In other words, “give time time”.

  3. This couldn’t have come at a better time for me thanks! After a couple of years of ill health and now resurfacing to find the world (and my friends) have moved on without me I’ve been feeling very confused and wanting to fix it.

    But as you say it may be better to just give my head a rest and spoil myself a little. Thanks 🙂

  4. Learn to be kind to yourself is one of the hardest things to learn-I always have that ‘tinge’ of guilt (for want of a better word) . Just writing this today has been cathartic….go with the flow….

  5. How right you are, I think it was while having a Bowen session that the lady told me when I had pain somewhere, to tell the body to accept it and breathe deeply, it has worked at times, unfortunately it doesn’t work for my tinnitus which I’ve had for over 30 years. If I’m dying to spend a “penny” and I’m some way away from a toilet I do give it a try, do find it a great help trying to calm the body (bladder ha ha!)

    I think anything to stave off reaching for pills is better, it’s surprising how one can last without.

    Another thing a lady once said to me she was in hospital and had done something to her back and would have to lie flat for a very long time, in great pain! She looked at the clock and said to herself I will bear this pain for another 10 minutes, after 10 minutes, I will do it for 20 minutes, she said it’s surprising how long you can fool the body after a while. Hope this makes sense.

    Some people are too quick to want something right away. I think of people in remote places that are a very long way from The Doctor, walk for miles and queue for ages, for some help, we in the western world have lost the art of patience we want instant help.

  6. Hi Alex this reminded me of my Mother she had terrible knee pain and she used to just lean her hands on the table and wait! If I interrupted her she said , ” don’t fuss” ! I felt rejected at the time, but now after reading your post it makes more sense.

  7. I also find that going ‘horizontal’ or simply getting a good nights sleep (I know that’s more difficult for some) can help me to re-gain a proper perspective on things and heal anything that’s broken.

  8. I think our fast paced society makes us think that we can fix anything quickly when in reality any type of healing or growing-mind or body- takes time, patience & acceptance.

    Sometimes it can be a relief to stop trying to ‘fix’ & just ‘be.’

  9. Thanks so much for your thoughtful comments, everyone! Great to hear your takes on the topic. Give Time Time – I love it! 🙂

  10. It was comforting to hear that I am not alone in rushing to take stuff if I cannot sleep. I may try to just sit with it in future but it’s hard to do that at night.

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