Say you wanted to achieve excellence in a particular sport.
Maybe you’d have your eye set on competing in some big event.
Perhaps even the Olympics?
It’s going to take complete focus.
A huge amount of work.
Real belief in yourself.
Instead of practicing like there’s no tomorrow, would it make sense to spend every day thinking about how bad you were before you started?
To concentrate on your weaknesses?
To dwell on your lack of potential?
Of course not.
So isn’t it rather odd that when our moods are low, we can be inclined to pass all our time wondering about why we feel this way?
We desperately seek a reason for our state of mind, thinking that this will help in some strange way.
Do you think the champion high jumper wastes weeks trying to work out why she kept knocking the bar off when she was in her teens?
I don’t think so.
Thinking about being unhappy is very likely to leave you feeling, well, unhappy.
So what do you think might happen if you thought instead about being happy?
Surely it’s better to focus your energy on getting yourself back into a better place than it is to agonise why you got into a bad one?