Let’s just imagine for one moment that a good friend is having a hard time. How might you help her?
For a start, you’d probably be kind. You’d encourage and support her, and try to help her see that you empathise with her.
You might make some gentle suggestions, some of which could revolve around her looking after herself – trying to get a good night’s sleep, eating healthily, getting out for a walk, not ‘self-medicating’ with alcohol or drugs.
I’m sure you wouldn’t criticise her, nor tell her that she only has herself to blame.
You wouldn’t ignore her.
But now let’s imagine that the person going through the bad time isn’t a good friend.
How would you help yourself?
I’m sorry to say that when the going gets tough, many of us are much less kind to ourselves than we would be to our friends.
We can be downright mean, behaving in a way in which we’d never do towards a friend.
So next time things aren’t quite right for you, please do me a favour.
Be kind to yourself. Be your own friend.