I don’t quite know why, but it seems to be one of life’s incontrovertible laws that not all friendships are created equal.
Indeed, why do we become friends in the first place with some people but not others?
Clearly you’re not going to become best buddies with absolutely everyone you run into during the course of a day (fortunately – just think of the outrageous amounts you’d have to pay out for birthday cards) but, like me, you may have wondered about the process which can turn some acquaintances into friends, but not others.
And again, of course, there are friends – and there are best friends. Part of what makes someone a best friend seems to be that you really ‘get’ one another. It feels as though you understand them, and that in return they understand you.
Best friendship seems to some extent being unconditional. You’ll be there for each other through fair weather and foul. And someone who falls into this category is to be cherished and valued. You may not totally need each other right now, but there may well come a time when you will.
I think that someone who truly gets you is the equivalent of owning a priceless asset. If you’d inherited an oil painting worth millions, would you leave it out in the rain? Would you ignore it? Would you allow it to fall into disrepair?
The same goes for special friendships.
So if you’ve let things slide recently, perhaps today’s the day to do a little picture restoration?