How disagreements can become a thing of the past

Arguments sit at the very core of politics and law.

One side has its point of view, the other another.

Then it’s all about attack and defence, back and forth, parry and thrust, which for an outsider can seem bewilderingly confrontational.

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I never really got the debating society thing at school which very possibly is why I’m neither a politician nor a lawyer.

Despite this, I think most of us feel we’re ‘supposed’ to defend our point of view. When someone takes an opposing position about something in which you hold a belief, it can feel like an attack on you.

And when we’re attacked, we’re programmed to defend ourselves, which may sometimes take the form of fighting back.

Often, though, what really is the point?

Just as you’re hardly likely to agree with everyone else’s way of seeing things, neither are they always going to concur with yours.

You only have so much mental energy, and when the fuel tank is low, pursuing arguments can drain you.

So, maybe, just don’t.

A friend once told me that I should feel no need to defend my point of view.

And you know what? There’s no arguing with that.

4 thoughts on “How disagreements can become a thing of the past

  1. Ha, we’re in the same boat Jon! I refused to participate in my 5th grade class debating project. I remember not wanting to have to arbitrarily argue for or against the death penalty, of all things. Let peaceful thoughts fill our hearts and minds today.

  2. I have a relationship with someone who always has to have the last word – I don’t see the disagreements coming until I realize there is one going on. By then, it’s impossible to back out – I am always so disappointed in myself that I fall into it. This person is into endless personal promotion, so being right – even about insignificant things, is the most important thing. Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated.

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