Hug your way to happiness

Now I may be wrong, but I don’t have you down as someone who rubs noses socially.

Certain of the world’s people say hello by performing a docking manoeuvre between their proboscis and that of another.

(Not especially pleasant during the cold and flu season, I should imagine, but certainly a way to get upfront and personal with another human being.)

Most are more likely to greet others with their own kind of physical contact, depending on how well they know one another.

They may hug, kiss, shake hands or high-five: perhaps even all of the above, although that could be in danger of making you feel as though you’re part of some kind of Lady Gaga routine.

The point is, we tend to enjoy touching the people we like or respect, and also draw comfort from being touched ourselves.

I’m sure it’s a throwback to primitive behaviour when our ancestors may have reached out to one another to reassure that no threat was meant – or perhaps to indicate affection, comfort or respect.

This type of physical contact can amplify the meaning of a connection with someone: hopefully both parties feel good as a result.

What happens, however, when you connect with others and it’s definitely not appropriate to do the touching thing?

Most passengers tend not to hug their bus driver, for instance.

Sorry bus drivers, but that’s just the way it is.

Fortunately we do have all sorts of ways to compensate.

We can smile, make eye contact, properly listen, and use ‘warm’ body language.

It’s even possible to carry some of these ideas through to our electronic communications.

For example when I first met Alex she used curly brackets in her emails to represent a hug.

Connecting with people is a great way to feel better about yourself, and doing it with warmth makes it ten times better.

{{ So today, why not pass this on? }}


2 thoughts on “Hug your way to happiness

  1. Here’s one for you Jon! {}
    I see lots of people also use ‘o’ inbetween X X X X ‘s and that apparently means huge and kisses!
    Here are hugs to all

  2. {{Nice one Jon}}

    Also struck a chord with me as earlier this week I was in conversation with a friend talking about how my mother died and unexpectedly(she died 18 years ago) I was overwhelmed by emotions and my friend just reached across the table and held my hand until I’d regained composure.

    It was so comforting, especially as I was embarrassed sitting in the middle of a busy coffee shop, and help me enormously. She also realised my social embarrassment and reassured me that my mascara hadn’t run either!

    One thing I try to do-in a non touching way- is to always engage eye contact when I am being served in a shop or coffee shop and often have really interesting conversations with people as a consequence. I shudder when people on mobile phones carry on conversations whilst purchasing something and shove cash or card over, without any eye contact, as though they are using a machine and not a human.

    Some form of connection usually works of the good for both parties in my experience.

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