I love you just the way you are

I just love watching hawks.

The way they glide so effortlessly over great expanses of land. Their super sharp eyes that can spot dinner moving down below, and the focus and speed with which they dive and hunt. So beautiful. So powerful.

As I opened my eyes this morning, the thought entered my mind that in many ways, I’m like a hawk.


Sometimes I’m very good at stepping back, gliding, and seeing the big picture around me. And sometimes I get into tunnel vision mode and can only see the very focused thing that I’m hunting. I’m so grateful to Jon for pointing this out to me recently, although it wasn’t the easiest thing in the world to hear.

It’s true though. I’ve always learned that you get what you want in life by extreme focus and relentless action until you achieve your goal. And it works too – I’ve done everything I had written down on the bucket list I made for myself in college:

  • Sell a startup, check (twice).
  • Move to California, check.
  • Have a homebirth, check.
  • Run in a marathon in Hawaii, check.
  • Save someone’s life, check (twice).
  • Eat pizza in Naples, check.
  • And so on. (Maybe it’s time for a new bucket list!)

The point is that when I’ve been focusing on these goals, I’ve lost sight a bit of the people around me. I haven’t paid enough attention. It’s something I’m definitely going to be working on now, in a gentle, accepting way. I love being a hawk, and I can learn to be a better hawk too.

I wonder if you’ve ever thought of what animal might represent you? What strengths and weaknesses does your animal have? Sometimes seeing ourselves outside ourselves like this, as an animal, can help us be more loving and understanding of both our gifts and our flaws. 

Now if only hawks were cuddly and soft too, then it would be a perfect match for me.

But whatever your animal is, be it hawk or bear or kitten or frog or mosquito, please remember today that I love you. Just the way you are.

With you always,

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