Why just about no conversation is a pointless conversation

In a world before electronic communications, people passed the time of day by stopping to talk in the street, or by the village pond. The only tweets came from ducks’ beaks.

However, sometimes it seems that the more ways we have to connect with others, the less we actually do so.

These days, it’s not uncommon to hear stories of workmates who communicate with one another by email rather than walking a few yards to actually speak to them in person.


We often live in communities so large that the chances of bumping into someone we know are remote.

We may drive to semi-distant supermarkets where, once again, it’s pretty unlikely that we’ll see familiar faces.

Some don’t know their neighbours.

You need a constant supply of air to breathe, and fortunately there’s a good supply of this wherever you go (albeit that its quality varies from place to place) so thankfully you don’t have to seek it out.

But in a way, our connections with others are every bit as vital as oxygen.

Shut them off and it won’t be long before we show the signs of missing them.

This may not happen as quickly as it would if our air supply was cut, but a lack of human contact can have a profound effect.

Today, therefore, remind yourself of the importance of interacting with other people, treating it as being almost up there with breathing in terms of priority, and make a conscious effort to engage in conversations with those around you, especially convivial chats with no great ulterior purpose beyond making you both feel a little better for the experience.

You may not have a village pond, but you probably do have a phone, so why not call someone and tell them you’ve just phoned for a chat?

3 thoughts on “Why just about no conversation is a pointless conversation

  1. I had a feeling this might be the case and then read this in the newspaper:

    REPLACING face to face contact with friends and family with emails, texts and phone calls could double the risk of depression, a study has indicated.
    People who saw family and friends just once every few months had an 11.5 per cent chance of later suffering from depressive symptoms.
    By contrast, those who met up at least three times a week had the lowest level of depressive symptoms, with rates of 6.5 per cent.
    Dr Alan Teo, lead author and assistant professor of psychiatry at Oregon Health and Science University said: “Research has long-supported the idea that strong social bonds strengthen people’s mental health. But this is the first look at the role that the type of communication with loved ones and friends plays in safeguarding people from depression.”

  2. I have been saying this since the 90’s when I first had to start using computers at work – having successfully avoided them till then! And the first thing I noticed in the office I had newly arrived in was that no-one spoke to one another!

    Someone asked me the other day if I tweeted. I replied that I was not a “boidy” and left tweeting to them.

  3. A person, who shall remain nameless has just told me that the charity activity I’m preparing for a few hundred people is a waste of time and resources. I was shocked and felt sorry for him. He has failed to see the motivation behind a team of 20 people from different work areas, working together towards a common goal.
    I think he will be a lonely, depressed old man. Yes I’m annoyed and I have every right to be.

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