If there’s an important relationship you’ve been neglecting, it will always pay to invest time and energy in it.
When a gardener sows seeds she has no way of knowing which will thrive and which won’t. Instead, a little while after they’ve germinated she’ll thin out her seedlings in a process sometimes called “pricking out”.
Those which are weaker will be removed in order that the stronger ones have more space in which to grow, and she’ll also be able to focus her attention on the plants with the best prospects.
I’m certain there are other instances in life in which it pays to concentrate our energies in a few well-defined areas rather than spreading ourselves too thinly elsewhere. A notable example? Our relationships with others.
Of course it makes great sense to cultivate friendships with a number of people at the same time, and as we and others are learning from our experiences with our WellBee cards, it’s clear that the closeness (and to some extent quantity) of our connections can have a pretty profound affect on levels of overall wellbeing.
In talking about thinning out seedlings, I don’t mean to imply doing anything like this with your friendships. But I do think it makes sense from time to time to ask yourself if there’s perhaps one particular relationship that you’ve been neglecting?
Is there someone important who’d benefit from more of your focus? Would it make sense to invest energy in patching things up if that’s necessary? Could it be a good idea to spend time in this person’s company, or in an exchange of messages or a phone conversation if they’re physically remote?
Relationships are there to be enjoyed. How about doing just that today?