Help. What’s the opposite of Angry?

Sorry, yesterday slipped by without a Moodnudge. It was Presidents’ Day here in the USA, so routines got a bit disrupted. I also had my head down all day, working hard to make sense of the amazingly useful data we collected last Friday.

At the risk of running your “help tank” dry, there’s actually something I’m struggling with, so I wonder if you might briefly lend a hand once again please?

The thing is, I’m trying to pin down a fairly simple word that means the opposite of Angry, but despite trawling through the antonym sections of thesauri/thesauruses, I can’t seem to find exactly what I want.

I’ve therefore assembled a shortlist, and will welcome your vote(s) for words you believe are right, as well as suggestions for any I’ve not thought of.

Here’s the list:

The form has been set up so that you should be able to review other people’s responses (all anonymously, of course) after you’ve submitted your own thoughts.

Let’s see what the wisdom of the crowd comes up with. Could be interesting.

As ever, a “yuge” thank you (well, it was still Presidents’ Day when I wrote this) for your generosity, and willingness to participate. I really do appreciate it.

12 thoughts on “Help. What’s the opposite of Angry?

  1. I’d be interested to know what other words people identify as being “opposite” to anger. In fact one of the reasons there may be a problem is because the roots of anger are often complex.
    A sense of injustice (e.g. At watching a child being treated violently)
    Frustration and helplessness (might lead to depression, effort to change self others or situation…then anger)
    Boredom (including boredom with self)

    So anger might spring from a response to quite another feeling. I didn’t put ‘apathy’ as an opposite to anger, but perhaps I should have. Maybe ‘passive’ too, altho’ ‘passive aggressive’ would be a different state.

    That’s the problem with words. At the risk of sounding like Trump “I have lots of words!’ But they still don’t necessarily hit the exact expression of feeling I wish they would.

  2. I actually really love helping on these questionnaires of yours Jon. It makes me feel part of something. And the opposite of angry! Sally S

  3. I think it very much depends upon context Jon. Anger in my view can be inside our minds at all times; that is if we learn what it is during our informative years, later on and without reflection we choose to accept it’s creation (as a man made state) and are often unaware we truly can let it go. So, with that in mind I propose that anger in the 21st century is learned behaviour. One is not born angry, one can overcome anger. I feel I have been able to do so thanks to my introspective journey. With that in mind I do not think of anger as being a temporary state so I choose the word Peaceful and no others. Love and light to all ✌🏼

  4. A very interesting thing happened to me when I took the original test. As I stopped to consider if I felt, and how much I felt, some of the emotions I reacted differently to the positive and negative words/emotions/moods. If the word was a positive one I was easily able to state how much I felt. But if it was negative I had to sort of stop and reflect and ask myself, for example, was I feeling angry? As I did that I thought about the things in my life that were making me angry and then I felt more angry. What happened to me was that somehow I became more reflective about the negative emotions and also more general….how angry am I these days? was probably the question I accidentally answered. The answer was that many things, especially many political things, are making me angry. But I don’t think I was very angry in the moment until I started reflecting. So I think my results (and maybe some other people’s) were a bit inflated when measuring the negative emotions. I’m not sure my answers were really as accurate as they should have been and that made me wonder if other people’s might also have been skewed.

  5. For me, anger is a very active and negative feeling, so contented is not the opposite but certainly a welcome alternative. Anger can be and often is consuming. Anger is mostly considered to be the result of or an emotion toward something or someone outside of the self, for me it’s an internal, inward focused emotion. It lurks. It’s isolating. It feels awful. It’s hard to get rid of. It’s easy to be stuck in. Anger, like anxiety, is a component of how I experience depression.

    So as I break it down, I think that the opposite of anger would be a state of active outward connectedness, of prolonged happiness that you want to share and that brings people together. How about joyous!

  6. I found this page because I asked myself the same question! I think it’s gratitude. We’re angry because we’re not getting what we want. The best way I know how to get what I want, is by first being grateful for what I already have.

  7. The opposite of angry is fear. In all contexts. Our primitive mind works on fight or flight. Those are opposites. Therefore, fight is angry and flight is fear. Stop trying to put a philosophical spin on it.

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