Don’t drown in Other People’s Problems.

Although living on a desert island would almost certainly count as one of life’s more lonely existences, it may have the possible advantage of keeping you insulated from OPP.

Other People’s Problems.

Although life might be simpler without OPP, it would unquestionably be a less rewarding and less interesting way to live.

An element of what makes us social animals is our need to be a part of others’ lives, and to have others in our own.

Being there for friends, colleagues and family can feel good, and the principles of reciprocation mean that if you scratch their back, they may scratch yours.

Having said that, though, OPP can overwhelm you at times, especially if for some reason you’re not at your best.

What to do when OPP loom, therefore?

The trick seems to be to listen and empathise, without taking things onto your own shoulders.

It can also help to try and keep things in compartments.

By all means, be there when those around you need help.

But when they’ve walked out of your door, or you’ve put down the phone, it’s perfectly fine (and probably healthy) to clear your mind and get on with your day as best you can.

It’s a less drastic solution than getting yourself marooned on that desert island.

2 thoughts on “Don’t drown in Other People’s Problems.

  1. This is very helpful advice, something I will use and remember, my son has pointed this out to me recently in a similar way. Thank you

  2. I agree completely, but how can we do this in practice? I find it really difficult. I feel others’ problems so deeply sometimes. I identify as a HSP so I think I feel things more than other people might. When one of my friends is in emotional pain, I often feel that pain too. It does have a massive impact on my mental health though so I’m looking for advice and help with this. Any suggestions?

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