Why others see things you can’t

Have you noticed that it’s nearly always easier to solve other people’s problems than it is to solve your own?

Invariably we see solutions when others describe their challenges. ‘What ever are you worried about?’ we think, in the near certainty that they’d be completely fine if only they would do x.


Why, then, is it a very different kettle of fish when the boot’s on the other foot?

Why are we generally so slow to accept the fresh perspectives offered to us by a friend when we describe OUR dilemmas?

Perhaps it’s because we believe their suggestions are too simple. Unlike us, they don’t know all the facts.

Sometimes, however, being in possession of all the background knowledge can rob you of your power to take action. You can end up over-complicating the situation with the net result that you do nothing.

Now I’m not suggesting that we should blindly adopt every suggested solution that comes our way, just that it may pay to take them a little more seriously.

It’s surprising how often the view from outside can be clearer than the one from within.

One thought on “Why others see things you can’t

  1. I think you are so right Jon.

    When I find myself facing a dilemma, and maybe with a low mood, I think I lose perspective so it is good to have another view. Even if I don’t follow exactly someone else’s clear advice it does help to move my perceptive and see alternative ways through.

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