Remember the good times?

I guess it’s human nature.

We tend to dwell on those things which have gone wrong, often completely failing to relive those which were successful, happy and exciting.

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Sometimes it may seem we believe that constantly replaying the sadder, badder stuff might make it all go away, whereas it often just assumes more and more importance, usually far in excess of its actual significance.

If you’re anything like me you’ve probably got quite good at ruminating over negative events, seeing the pictures in your mind just as clearly as they were when whatever it was first happened.

Often, though, a distorting filter gets placed in front of the lens, so the pictures you see are actually a misinterpretation of what actually took place.

It may be difficult, but there’s a lot to be said for thinking like a detective when the nasties show up in your head time after time.

Was it truly and honestly as awful as you think? Was everything about it as bleak as you remember?

And most important of all, is there honestly any value in playing it back as often as you do?

So here’s a thought. If you’ve become an expert at creating these remembered images, why not put your skills to better use now and then by re-running memories of an especially good and happy event?

Visualise the sights and sounds. Concentrate hard on re-imagining the thoughts you had at the time.

It’s surprising how well this can work, and how swiftly it can bring a small smile to your lips.

4 thoughts on “Remember the good times?

  1. It was suggested to me I thought of a funny happy memory and a song that went with it. When bad memories come to mind I sing the song in my head (or sometimes out loud ) and bring to mind the happy funny good memory
    Works for me!

  2. Oh how those past failures or missed opportunities haunt my mind. Rerunning and rerunning seemingly out of my control. However, we can make choices when it comes to how we respond to our ruminations and negative thoughts. Replacing these thoughts with positive thoughts or memories is challenging for me. Yet, over time and with much practice, it can be done. It’s important to slightly remove yourself from the feelings as if you were watching from above. Acknowledging the hurt or pain and then choosing a new perspective. Remembering that Bipolar has a mind of its own, gives me the power to choose again and again for positive perspectives and recognizing those that are distorted. A constant work in progress that I must stay commited to in order to stay healthy and happier!

  3. Yes catching yourself and thinking positively is great, and the more you do it the more habitual it becomes, I try to do this as a matter of course so that if I have a down, hopefully negative thinking won’t be able to crowd in again completely.

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