There’s a curious thing that happens when you’re feeling low.
Some (no doubt well-meaning) people will try to impose their solutions on you.
‘You should do X.’
‘Why don’t you try Z?’
And of course these are the last things you’re going to do.
In fact if someone suggests Z, you’re more likely to think about doing A, through sheer cantankerousness.
But it’s weird.
If you’re anything like me, there’s a part of you that is actually screaming out for someone, somewhere to tell you what to do, at the very same time that you’re actively ignoring everyone’s ‘advice’.
I think the solution, if you can possibly pull it off, is to find a friend who gives advice rather than ‘advice’.
Someone who’s in tune with you.
Someone who can see things through your temporarily blurred eyes.
Someone, perhaps, whose elegant solution is to persuade you to sit down, have a cup of tea, and return to the thing that’s bugging you tomorrow.
Because problems sometimes look smaller from a distance.
And a good friend can help you understand this, when you’ve temporarily forgotten.