See the good in the struggle

Here’s a thought that’s been transforming my whole attitude towards life lately. I wanted to share it in case it’s helpful for you, too.

The idea is simple yet profound, and has taken a long while to trickle into my deep subconscious understanding.

This is it: you can mine your suffering to find gold.


When we go through a challenge in life, we may find that some new insight or understanding or good comes out of it. And if not, we can still use the experience to open our hearts and increase our compassion for others in the same situation.

So in times of distress, I remind myself:

  1. There are others feeling like this right now, I’m not alone.
  2. It will pass, I can ride it out.
  3. How can I use this experience for good, growth, or benefiting the world?

As the poet Rumi says, “If you are irritated by every rub, how will you be polished?”

Sending love and warm hugs,

11 thoughts on “See the good in the struggle

  1. There’s a truth in that. At one level we all (reluctantly) know that a path of sorrow can (eventually) teach us a few valuable lessons but it’s hardly the first direction we’d choose but I guess most of us find ourselves trudging some miles along it. So, until they put some better signposts (or at least some decent street lights) along this stupid path, a wave and a nod to anyone else tramping along 🙂

  2. Thank you so much! Mood nudges is a great support to me and reminds me to see things in different ways. It feels like you understand and are supportive. Really makes a difference. This post is interesting as currently not physically well with an infection so taking one minute at a time.

  3. I agree that my recent rubbing & polishing is waaaay too much & I can’t wait until i look back on these trying times..this article & Stoic philosophy in general has put my tribulations in context with the realization that I can bitch & moan & live in regret or I can live/love/learn in the now & become a better person for it.

  4. “There are others feeling like this right now, I’m not alone.” Yes, that is so important. We are humans experiencing the ups and downs of life. Self compassion is also vital. I like the work of Kristin Neff on self compassion. Maybe also check out Steve Taylor’s lovely book ‘Out of the Darkness’. Love your posts.

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