Spend time with others, even when you feel low. Especially when you feel low, actually.

It’s good to be with you for the next few minutes, and I hope you feel the same. Unless you’re hiding under the desk, we’re not together in person.

But most of us enjoy being in the company of other people. Even if at times we choose to be on our own. (That’s fine too, just as long as it doesn’t turn into the only thing you do.)

The trouble is—and we’ve spoken about this in the past—although it’s often the case that being around other people can give you a real boost, the obstinate part of your brain may try to stop you joining in with social situations when you’re feeling a bit ropey.


Crazy isn’t it? Logic tells you to accept invitations, to arrange to see a friend, or to pick up the phone. But the annoyingly pervasive emotional side of your thinking tells you not to.

What to do? Well perhaps, when the opportunity arises to spend time with others on one of those not-so-great days, ask yourself ‘what’s the worst that could happen if I ignored my emotions’?

I guess the answer is that you might get wherever you’re going, then could need to make your excuses and go home.

But (a) that’s not actually very likely, and (b) it really wouldn’t be that awful a thing to do if it was really necessary.

Why not try this next time you feel a bit rough?

Nine times out of ten, it works for me.

2 thoughts on “Spend time with others, even when you feel low. Especially when you feel low, actually.

  1. As usual you are spot on for me! I love my alone time but when I’m feeling blue I’ve found that spending time with others almost always give me a boost and lifts my mood!

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