Others’ moods can rub off on us, so do your utmost to spend time each day with someone upbeat.

‘Ever since you started hanging around with X, you’ve changed.’

It’s one of those allegations which seems to get levelled in relationships which are struggling through a rough patch, the insinuation being that the accused isn’t who he/she used to be.

The fact of the matter of course is that we do tend to take on the characteristics of the people we spend the most time with.

Socialising with optimists may give you a more half-full view of life, whilst being around those with a fundamentally pessimistic outlook might well drain your own glass.


Most of us have some around us who need to be there whatever the weather, but there’s nearly always a ring in your social circle that’s more discretionary – people you can choose to spend time with (or not).

I think life might become bland if we opted to fill this ring entirely with the super-happy. But isn’t it worth going a little out of your way to benefit from being with those who generally lift your spirits rather than dampen them?

You know who I mean. Why not arrange to catch up with them?

One thought on “Others’ moods can rub off on us, so do your utmost to spend time each day with someone upbeat.

  1. Love love love this post! I think it’s something I’ve known instinctively for myself having grown up with angry parents. Once I was on my own I tended to be drawn to this with a more sunny outlook. However I married a man who was some of both! Over the years I have watched him become more relaxed and upbeat with enough of an edge to keep things interesting. There are days where I only want to spend time with my more upbeat buddies and others when I want to hang with my more serious and somewhat challenging friends as they keep me on my toes! Great post- thanks!

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