Be a woohoo-minator, not a ruminator.

I guess it’s human nature that we should tend to dwell on those things which went wrong, often failing to recall those which were successful, happy and exciting.

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Sometimes it seems as though we believe that constantly replaying the sadder, badder stuff might make it all go away, whereas it often just becomes increasingly visible, usually far more than its significance deserves.

If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably got good at chewing over negative events, seeing the pictures in your mind just as clearly as they were when whatever it was first happened.

Often, however, a kind of distorting filter gets placed in front of the lens, so the pictures you see are a misinterpretation of what really took place.

It may be difficult, but there’s a lot to be said for thinking like a detective when these nasties show up in your head.

Was it truly as awful as you apparently recall?

Was everything about it as bleak as you remember?

And most important of all, is there honestly any value in playing it back as often as you do?

So here’s a thought.

If you’ve become an expert at creating these remembered images, why not put your skills to better use now and again by re-running memories of an especially good and happy event instead?

Visualise the sights and sounds, and concentrate hard on re-imagining thoughts you could have experienced at the time.

You may be surprised how well this can work, and how swiftly it could bring a small smile to your lips.

3 thoughts on “Be a woohoo-minator, not a ruminator.

  1. Yes, a good practice. While I can’t always stop negative playback… I’m continuing to develop the skill of being very kind to my brain when it does so. When I recognize a dark thought I say “there, there” and touch my cheek in a gentle manner. Then after, I may analyze if it’s real and go on to remember something pleasant or contact something real in the moment (sound, color, surroundings). Just recognizing the chain of negative thoughts and bringing the mind back builds positive muscle. These are not original ideas, all come from study of meditation.

  2. The best! After my time in the pit, i decided i must change my ways to help me guard against ever falling back in it. At first it was hard to spot when i going over the bad stuff in my head, that path seemed to be so well travelled that my brain automatically steered me that route.
    But after practice i learned to spot when i was doing it, at which point i would say ‘stop!’ & tell myself ‘oh no you don’t’ then make myself replace those bad thoughts with 3 positive ones.
    Over time i discovered i didnt even have to pay attention to looking out for the naughty thoughts in my head anymore, i’d somehow become attune to spotting them subconciously & re-routing my brain to the happy path instead. It works a treat, it really does. Oh happy day! : )

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